This Is Why Forgiveness Is The Second Greatest Trait A Christian Can Exhibit

Take a moment and think about the people who used to be in your life, and for whatever reason are no longer there. Where did they go? True, sometimes friendships come to an end for whatever reason, that happens. People move on, outgrow each other. But think about the people you pushed out of your life because of actions you took or Christian charity you refused to show them.

How good are you at at the “baby basics” of the Christian faith, forgiveness and reconciliation?

“Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. And the apostles said unto the Lord, Increase our faith.” Luke 17:3-5 (KJV)

Can you imagine what Heaven would be like if Jesus said after He saved you “You can spend eternity here in Heaven, but you can’t spend any time with Me”. After a few thousand years of getting the cold shoulder from Jesus, you might start to wonder if He really forgave you at all. And so it is with the Christian who can (begrudgingly) forgive their offending brother or sister in the faith, but then not ever do the “other thing” the Bible talks about. What “other thing” you ask? This thing:

“And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;” 2 Corinthians 5:18 (KJV)

We have as Christians have the Ministry of Reconciliation

Have you ever had someone really hurt you? Perhaps it was a betrayal of confidence, a betrayal of friendship, slanderous gossip, or “fill in the blanks”.  Perhaps you were the one doing the hurting, and really did damage to another brother or sister. The Bible commands us, in any dispensation, to forgive those who have hurt us and to ask forgiveness when we have done the hurting. That’s the first step. Most, not all, but most Christians I know can muster up the spiritual fortitude to accomplish this basic baby step. But to do the “other thing” required of us in the Age of Grace, to be reconciled to our brother or sister, that is as rare as the proverbial hen’s tooth.

Maybe you are well-versed in Bible prophecy, can understand the intricacies of Biblical dispensations, teach Sunday School, and can preach up a storm. That’s great, but how good are you at at the “baby basics” of the Christian faith, forgiveness and reconciliation? Hmm, I think I just lost half the crowd.

“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 (KJV)

Take a moment and think about the people who used to be in your life, and for whatever reason are no longer there. Where did they go? True, sometimes friendships come to an end for whatever reason, that happens. People move on, outgrow each other. But think about the people you pushed out of your life because of actions you took or Christian charity you refused to show them.

Is there someone you need to ask forgiveness from or show forgiveness to? And if so, do you have the courage to be reconciled with them? In case you’re wondering why you are so bad at doing this, please allow me to let you in on some of the “deeper truths” from the Bible. It is the sin of pride that prevents you from forgiving others, and it is the sin of pride that stops you from reconciling with them. Maybe you’ve mastered putting down drinking, swearing, smoking and fornicating. Yay! You could almost be a spiritual giant if you could just find a way to put down the deadliest of all sins – pride.

“The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.” Proverbs 8:13 (KJV)

Forgiveness and reconciliation is where “real” Christianity dwells, and few there be that trod that path. How about you, Christian? Who do you need to reconcile with? Forgiving each other is what Christians are commanded to do, but it is only half the job.

Go the extra mile. Be a spiritual giant. The only thing stopping you is your pride.


NTEB is run by end times author and editor-in-chief Geoffrey Grider. Geoffrey runs a successful web design company, and is a full-time minister of the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ. In addition to running NOW THE END BEGINS, he has a dynamic street preaching outreach and tract ministry team in Saint Augustine, FL.

  • Ky

    I forgive you brother!

  • BetrothedToHim

    Forgiveness is one thing, however trust is quite another. Take for instance suffering physical abuse from your father. You must forgive the offense, but I do not believe God expects us to position ourselves to allow more physical abuse.

    • Ron

      True God doesn’t expect us to be someones door mat BTH. Trust is a hard thing to regain once it is lost.

      Blessings BTH!

      • Judith

        Amen, Ron – not required to be doormats to any other humans!

  • All forms of corrupt and dishonest organized religion promote love, forgiveness and grace. Yet they never properly teach that love without truth is a colossal fraud.

    Why do the con artists of organized religion promote forgiveness so heavily? Because they don’t wish to be held accountable for their many wicked sins that they have committed. If they are forgiven, then their twisted logic convinces them that they do not need to confess and repent of anything. Yet nothing could be further from the truth. Soon, this fall, they will discover just how wrong they are. Because Yahushua is returning to gather the elect to Himself and in the process, the non-elect con artists will be left behind and exposed for who and what they have always been; frauds.

    • Yes, con artists like Jesus and all that forgiveness junk, I know… “But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.” Mark 11:26 (KJV)

      • terri

        I think he was being sarcastic about the apostate church who preaches forgiveness but then truly do not practice it, that is how it sounded to me as he than spoke of the rapture and being with Jesus and the apostate church will be left behind no matter how much preached what they eve. Just my thought

      • Spook89

        So, if a born-again Christian doesn’t forgive some offense, they lose their salvation?? What about OSAS?

        • A born again Christian can never lose their salvation.

          • Judith

            Correct, Geoffrey Grider!

      • The Bible teaches clearly that confession and repentance is manifested in all those who truly submit to Yahushua fully and only those who keep His commandments are saved. Those who fail to confess and repent of their sins are not true born again Christians. They are self-deceived frauds and con artists who remain on the path we are all born into: heading for hell.

        Since over 99% of those professing themselves to be Christians are unrepentant frauds, perhaps this is the place to start. These will soon hear the words of Yahushua: “I never knew you: depart from me ye workers of iniquity.” Matthew 7:21-23.

        Anyone accusing Yahushua of being a con artist as you have just done is a con artist and a charlatan. Stay away from wolves in sheeps’ clothing folks!

        • Dianne

          Watchman, please show us scripture backing your proof of ” over 99% of those professing themselves to be Christians are unrepentant frauds”

          I seriously believe that YOU need to ” STUDY to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of TRUTH. 2 Timothy 2:15

          • The elect are those who are of the truth and manifest sacrificial love for their fellow man. Only the elect are ever truly born again in the Spirit. All forms of organized religion are, and always have been, demonic. These are YHWH’s very words to me and my own experience in 10 different churches over a decade proved this to be 100% accurate. Truth is not welcome in any form of organized religion. Nor is submission or obedience to God and to the entirety of His word, the KJV of the Bible. All of God’s remnant has already fled the apostate church and we are very few in number, well less than 1% of those claiming to be Christians, the vast majority of whom who make a profane mockery out of God’s word.

            I take my directions directly from YHWH Himself as His true prophet and watchman on the wall in these bitter last days of the great tribulation which has a mere 60 more days to run before it ENDS. I have rightly divided the word of truth and tolerate no woman seeking to usurp authority over me in direct disobedience to the commandment of 1 Timothy 2:11-15. Know your place and obey God’s word or perish in your rebellion and disobedience to YHWH. Anyone who cannot see that we are facing the second coming of Christ this fall is strongly delusional and not to be trusted. The so-called church is a con and a fraud. It makes YHWH want to puke. Revelation 3:16.

        • Dianne

          Watchman, since you DID NOT leave a reply button to your post riddled with INSOLENCE, I will reply to YOU HERE!

          If you were a TRUE prophet of God, you would NOT have to boast of it because the office of the Prohet can be discerned by the Spirit of the LORD. 1 Corinthians 14:32-33 Your PRIDE and ARROGANCE has already DISQUALIFIED you.

          Again you HAVE NOT given ANY scriptures to back your FALSE claim about the 1% or the 99%.

          I suggest you read the Book of Judges Chapters 4&5 where the Prophetess Deborah was a Judge of Isreal for 40 years. And HOLD YOUR TONGUE!

          Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

          For whosoever exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted. Luke 14:11

    • Dianne

      Watchman, you have made a FALSE PREDICTION that ” Soon, this fall, they will discover just how wrong they are. Because Yahushua is returning to gather the elect to Himself and in the process…” and you NEED to ask for forgiveness for doing so.

      No MAN knows the day or hour of our LORD’S RETURN. No MAN and that includes YOU.

      Mathew 24:36 But of that day and hour knoweth NO MAN, NO, not the angels of heaven, but MY FATHER ONLY.

      Mark 13:32 But of that day and that hour NO MAN, NO, not the angels which are in heaven, neither the Son, but the FATHER.

    • Judith


  • Sad but resolute

    This has been the hardest thing to exercise this past year. My wife flagrantly cheated on me with a series of men, women, and even a couple, and had put in place a nasty plan to leave me and our children and wreck us financially. This on top of a spending addiction that has impacted my ability to provide for even our basic needs (I still make sure to tithe on the gross, though). In the flesh I wanted to go scorched-earth on her you-know-what. But God pointed me to the object lesson of Hosea, and the examples of His wooing of we (me!) enemies of Him, so that there could be the possibility of repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation. So he has been with me through this process that rivaled in pain-scale the deaths of two of our children. I’ve never stooped so low, I’ve never abased myself to the degree I’ve had to, and go right to the edge of not even being “me” any more, in service to this mission of reconciliation. But I keep being reminded that God in the O.T. and through Jesus did this very thing, lowering Himself far more than I have, so that as many people as possible have the chance to choose Him and His Kingdom. At present there is fidelity, at least, and some love. She has said she’s sorry, in her own way, and I have to renew my forgiveness and my personal repentance daily in order to defeat bitterness and resentment that wants to take over. All things have to be done in love and reconciliation and not fear or anger. Still the money problems to navigate. I don’t know if and how this ever turns out well, but I do know I need to follow God’s leading in response to my beseeching. The goal, the miracle I seek, would be to show up in heaven with her and all our present children in tow, so I could say “See, Lord – I didn’t lose any of the ones you gave me”

    • Heather

      Sad but resolute. God will bless you mightily for standing as you have. I can guess actually that He is very proud as to how you have handled these tragedies. You are a good man, a good husband and father. Can see it in your words brother. Your strength is being made STRONG for much greater things to come. You keep standing….God bless you!

    • Sad but resolute, please look into some very good Christian marriage counseling. There are also a lot of very good Christian books about adultery and the healing process for those who reconcile. Many Pastors do the counseling for free or have a married couple(s) that are trained to do this type of counseling.
      You wife must come to full awareness of what she has done spiritually and the devasting effect that this has brought on her family. You must get outside help, because it is imperative to your family’s well being. Please do not put this off. This will help you heal and someday both of you will have a marvelous testimony in the LORD.

      Peace and blessings,

    • Ron

      Sad but resolute, God is showing Himself strong on your behalf. I had a similar wife, but unlike yours mine wanted nothing to do with God.

      I pray The Lord will continue to heal your marriage and that things will improve for you.

      I know from personal experience you are in a very fiery trial and Remember:

      Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

      God Bless You!

  • GateKeeper

    Yah, but what do you do if they DONT repent, and keep doing it,and putting you in danger? Jesus said “IF they repent…” (emphasis mine). I’ve got family members who falsely accuse of me all kinds of things, to the point it’d be dangerous for me to be around them. Sociopaths don’t care; they’ll say anything.

    • Dan Quixoté

      It seems clear that we need to invite and provide for the full transaction of repentance and forgiveness and reconciliation. But it does depend on the offender as much as the forgiver. Either one can thwart it. Indeed, if there is a clear pattern of willful, unrepentant harm, our job is then to protect innocent life (e.g. our own).

    • terri

      You forgive others for your sake NOT theirs. They may never forgives you but if you truly forgive it releases pressure from your heart. People who do not forgive others keep on growing colder and colder and their heart gets VERY hard. This is my ex if someone asks for a cigarette he will cut them out of his life. Our son asked him for one before I realized and I truly thought he would disown him. We are to forgive because Jesus forgave us. Can we do any less? Just forgive them in your no need to really say anything. My pastor had a sermon on that and I forgave my ex even though I have not seen him in three years and the burden I did not know I had was lifted from my heart.

      • Dan Quixoté

        Thanks for this point. In teaching my children, I’ve called this “pre-forgiveness”. Like you say, it’s us doing our part like God did through Jesus.

      • GateKeeper

        Truly…I forgive them already in my heart, but until I see some evidence of repentance on their part, I shall have to keep some distance.

    • I am in the same situation Gatekeeper, but so that no root of bitterness grows, I commit to forgive them in my heart, knowing that Jesys has forgiven me. As anger creeps in, I say that I have forgiven them and ask the Lord to help my heart stay in forgiveness. I avoid all family members that are rude and bring my immediate family down. Life is too short to subject your family to haters.

  • Denali

    OK, so the verse from Luke says that if a brother transgresses against you, and you rebuke him, and then he repents, you should forgive him. I could certainly handle that! However, most of the situations I am in with other Christians, is that when I rebuke them, they never admit that they are not following scripture or that there is anything wrong with their behavior. Consequently, I do not have many Christians that I count as friends. Almost 99% I meet are not in alignment with scripture. I should also mention that if anyone rebukes me, I am very happy to learn so that I can be in accordance with God’s teachings. It is extremely frustrating to be so NOT part of the body of Christ as it were, but yet, I feel I am following His word.

    • Wendy

      I hear you, Denali!
      I go through the same thing….you are not alone.
      Let’s keep up the Good Fight, making sure we are acting in love~

  • John33

    Thanks for posting this biblical Christian foundation. As a believer I have to admit I am guilty of this and will reconcile these days with two persons I have to ask forgiveness I think this just came at thwe right moment to read. God bless!

  • Heather

    This is a great posting Geoffrey!

  • Andreas

    Excellent post Geoff. I don’t agree with all your posts but the Holy Spirit is teaching us to work together.

    To forgive someone or ask forgiveness builds unity. Jesus asked the Father in Heaven to forgive those who nailed Him on the cross.

    Luke 23:34

    Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” And they divided His garments and cast lots.

    That is such a powerful lesson; I am still learning …

  • Andreas

    Enjoyed this article Geoffrey. Blessings from Canada.

  • DeniseC

    I think the hardest thing for me has always been in forgiving myself. I hate letting God down! Thankfully His mercies are new every morning and I have started to understand what Paul said (paraphrased) that it is no longer him who is sinning but the sin nature in him, meaning the flesh, not the spirit, which is one with the Lord Who now lives in us. I’ve also learned that there are enough people in the world to condemn me, that I don’t have to do it to myself.

  • I asked my sister for forgiveness for my roll in a past argument, trying for a path to reconciliation.
    It was not received well and nothing has changed.
    Advice anyone ?

    • Hello Deej, I would suggest that you ask your sister what you need to do in order for the two of you to be reconciled. If what she wants is reasonable then by all means do it. If she refuses to forgive you after that attempt then leave her alone and just pray for her heart to be softened. Let her know that you still love her and that you will be praying for her.

      Peace and blessings,

      • Hi DD
        My sister is well aware of what she needs to do
        She is a believer just not walking close with Jesus at the moment
        Read my comment below and you will see what has just happened recently
        Another curve ball to deal with ,both sister have Christians in their lives they both know what they need to do
        but aren’t willing to walk that path so I’m praying for both of them
        I’m supporting my mum , sister in law and her four sons that have just lost their father

        • Dianne

          Hello Deej,
          You definitely are carrying a tremendous amount of responsibility and you have my prayer support! I am glad that you do have some family to remain close to until there is healing brought about from tha Holy Spirit with your estranged loved ones in due season so don’t give up praying them. Believe I know from experience that fervent and persistent prayer pays off eventually. I hope that these scriptures will bring you comfort as they have for me.

          Lamentations 3:22-24 It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him. Lamentations 3:22-24

          2 Timothy 1:12 For the which cause I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.

          God Bless you Deej!

    • I think you honored God by worrying about your own sin before Him(God) and your sister, regardless of whether the other person cares about their sin towards you. That is a beautiful thing amigo and I think the Lord is well pleased. As bitterness or thoughts of injustice well up, say to the Lord that you have chosen to forgive freely, help me walk in that forgiveness. You have done well and if spending time with her causes unnecessary pain, I would politely decline. If and only if she asks why, I think you have an open door to tell her that you love her and have forgiven her but that it’s hard to be around her and respect her when she has no desire to deal with her sin against you. That might not go well but at least then you’ve been honest and given her a chance to deal with her sin and be in relationship with you. Just a few thoughts…..

      • Thank you SS your pearls are not being thrown to swine
        My brother has recently passed away like three weeks ago and my sisters have formed an alliance against me it has shown me what’s been simmering under the surface
        I’m the youngest of four and I’ve had a google crash course on sibling grief to try and steer my sisters towards Jesus
        I can barely walk let alone have them both throw me under the bus
        I’m clinging to Jesus with all I’ve got at the moment
        My brother was my go to man to chat about life seeings my dad passed away when I was twelve I really miss both of them
        This life is a grind but I’ll put one foot in front of the other, it doesn’t matter how big the steps are as long as I’m moving forward
        Your prayers at this time would be much appreciated
        Blessings to all

        • Ron

          I have been where you are Deej, it can be tough! My wife and Children ( 2 Aspergers, I Autistic) are all saved, however my brothers,

          sisters, and mother are not and the same for my wife’s side. Her mom passed away and in the process it was a split about her mother’s

          care. Never mind she took care of her at our house for 5 months and no one gave my wife a break from it yet they came out of the

          woodwork to think they should decide how to terminate their mom’s life. We have witnessed to both sides we are both outcasts.

          It can be very hard to just get out of bed somedays, I am disabled, and we have faced many, many trials and God has brought us

          thru them all. Lord I humbly ask and pray you will give Deej the strength to carry on for Joy in You is her Strength. Lift her up and

          give her the direction, wisdom, understanding, and discernment to deal with her situation. This we humbly ask in Your Precious Name.


          God Bless You Deej!

          Hang in their Sister WE ARE GOING HOME VERY VERY SOON!!!!!!!

          • Thank you for your kind words Ron
            Wouldn’t it be lovely to have us all sit around a fire and share our stories.
            I’m a Bloke by the way
            I’m steering clear of my sisters at the moment I’m looking after myself or I’m no good for anyone.
            This is another stella article by Geoffrey

          • Ron

            It is always good to hear from overseas Christians!

            I hope you all else is well Down Under you are on the other side of the world, how great is that!

            I wouldn’t mind visiting some day.

            Hang in There WE ARE ALMOST HOME!

  • Watchman remember Jesus said in Mark 11:25-26 this: (25) And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against any: that your Father also which is in Heaven may forgive you your trespasses. (26) But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in Heaven forgive your trespasses. To not forgive is slapping God and Jesus in the face. Jesus paid a great Sacrifice for us. We need to remember this. You are wrong on obeying the Commandments because no human being except Jesus can obey them. Jesus further tells us to love our enemies.

    Matthew 5:44— But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless them who curse you, do good to them who hate you, and pray for them who spitefully use you, and persecute you.

    Luke 6:27-30 (27) But I (Jesus) say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, (28) Bless them who curse you , and pray for them which despitefully use you. (29) And unto him who smite you on the one cheek offer also the other; and him who takes your cloak forbid not to take your coat also. (30) Give to every man who asks you; and of him who takes away your goods ask them not again.

    Read Matthew 5:43-48 This is the Law of Love. Love and Forgiveness works hand in hand.

    Here are several commands the Holy Spirit gave Paul:

    Romans 12: 14-15 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not . Rejoice with them who do rejoice, and weep with them who weep.

    This is about our conduct:

    Romans 12:17-21 (17) Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. (18) If it be possible, as much as lieth in you , live peaceably with All men. (19) Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath : for it is written, Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. (20) Therefore if your enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing you shall heap coals of fire on his head. (21) Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

    Here are some examples of forgiveness: the Lord Jesus Christ first, Joseph, David and Paul. Here is an example of Church Discipline: In 1 Corinthians Paul has to discipline a man who slept with his stepmother by giving him to Satan. I have seen some even here who need that kind of Church Discipline.

    To a great many I repeat Galatians 4:16— Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth? Forgiveness does however not mean having relationship or fellowship if people choose not to repent!!!!

  • We must keep forever forgiving because our relationship with God the Father will be well in Jesus and His Finished Work on the Cross. Forgiveness promotes deliverance from the root of bitterness. Remember 2nd Corinthians 10:4-5.

    2 Corinthians 10:4-5 (4) For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty Through God to the pulling down of Strongholds; (5) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing (Pride) that exalteth itself against the Knowledge of God, and bringing into Captivity Every Thought to the
    Obedience of Christ.

    We need to remember 1 John 4:19-21.

    1 John 4: (19) We love Him, because He first loved us.

    (20) If a man say, I love God, and Hates his Brother, he is a liar: for he who loves not his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?

    (21) And this commandment have we from Him, That he who loves God love his Brother also.

  • Don Mers

    Jeffry,thanks for sharing the great truth of forgiveness as a requisite for returning our love to God !! Its not a problem for me now to forgive others as at 78 yrs old I finally entered the rest of faith that set me free!! When I realized through the word that I am totally justified by virtue of my faith in Jesus and not of any good works that I have done !! Its a gift we receive !! I am so overwhelmed with Gods grace how can I not forgive when he has forgiven me at a great personal cost to him !! Maranatha !!

  • Ron

    That is Wonderful Don!

    God Bless You!

  • Matthew 22:34 After the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they came together in one group. 35 And one of them, versed in the Law, tested him by asking: 36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 He said to him: “‘You must love Jehovah your God with your whole heart and with your whole soul and with your whole mind.’ 38 This is the greatest and first commandment. 39 The second, like it, is this: ‘You must love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments the whole Law hangs, and the Prophets.”

    Ecclesiastes 12:13 The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the true God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole obligation of man

    So it seems that the two greatest traits of a Christian are not forgiveness and reconciliation, but are actually loving God with your whole might and life, and loving your neighbor as yourself. And the whole obligation of man is to fear the true God (fearing displeasing Him) and to obey ALL of His commandments. This is what God’s word says. This ARTICLE is only what a man says. Man is created by God. God is the creator. The created CANNOT be greater than the Creator.


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